You know that feeling  where you just start to drop at the top of a roller coaster ride  from its highest point? The feeling of your stomach dropping, your heart racing, and you feel like you can’t catch your breath? It only lasts for a moment, and then you reach the bottom and the feeling subsides as quickly as it came. For the last 60 days I have been living with that feeling. I have been feeling as though I have fallen into a dark and endless hole with no bottom in sight. I haven’t been able to take a deep breath or sleep through a night,  or eat properly or perform pretty much any simple, normal function that most people just do without a second thought.  I mean, breathing isn’t something the average person has to even think of. But somewhere around 1, 440 hours ago, I became no longer average.

Approximately 86, 400 seconds ago my husband Andre died suddenly and very large part of me died with him.  I feel as thought i have been free-falling ever since. Falling down a hole filled with fog and darkness. I can’t see where I am going, or where the bottom is.  I do however,  see my life for the last 18 years playing in my mind. With each foot I fall, my sense become more heightened; moving images of my husband smiling at me , the  sound of his laugh, the way he smelled, the burning of the skin around my eyes from wiping away my tears the days after he died, the  butterflies in my stomach when he kissed me, and the pride I felt watching him perform.

As I continue to fall, I replay the moments of the last minutes I saw him alive. Did I miss something? Did I kiss him hard enough? Did I remember to tell him I love him?

Falling further still, feeling pieces of my heart disintegrate and slip between my fingers like grains of sand. I grab at the air in front of me, trying to hold onto anything I can to stop falling and wake up in a sudden jerk from this nightmare.

On December 29th, 2017 my husband died suddenly of unknown causes. He took with him most of my heart. I have no idea when the falling with stop, but I am even a little more terrified of finding out what it’s going to feel like once I have hit bottom.

“As the pain sweeps through,

Makes no sense for you

Every thrill is gone

Wasn’t too much fun at all,

But I’ll be there for you

As the world falls down”

– David Bowie

4 thoughts on “Falling

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  1. This is a beautiful blog Danielle and through this you will heal ! You will continue to find strength you never knew you had. Xoxo


  2. I find comfort in your words June 2017 I lost the love of my life my fiancé father of my child my partner for the last 13 years. The healing process? Grieving? I don’t know what that is but I feel the emptiness every moment ofeach day. There’s only so much I can explain to others about my feelings but I find ease in writing. I really want to thank you for blogging your thoughts your writing is beautiful. Keep writing keep on keep on your stronger than you ever thought you were. ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much! I’m
      Sorry you are in the same boat, it’s a terrible place to be. I wish you nothing but happiness and love and joy and hopefully, in time, the pain will ease. Sending you love and light ❤️


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